"What doesn't kill me makes me stronger. Losing you means I live longer."
For women who have been victims of domestic violence, these powerful words from
Australia's foremost diva, Paulini, will resonate in their hearts.
Life could not be better for Paulini right now. As one of Australia's most loved singers, she
has grown as a performer, a songwriter and a woman, steering her own destiny in her
music career and making choices that she truly feels good about.
Paulini was barely in her 20's as we watched her shine through the lens of the first series of Australian Idol, thrust into the spotlight as the competition reached fever like pitch. She
left the competition at the final four stage and went on to carve out a successful solo
career, complete with number one single "Angel Eyes" and album "One Determined
Heart", and a highly successful turn with vocal group "Young Divas".
It was during this time, at the height of her career three years ago, she was involved in a
violent relationship where physical abuse would be followed by declarations of love and
promises that it would never happen again.
" I believed him. At the time I couldn't see there was nothing left in me. I was dry. I was
scared of him, scared of the impact on my career and scared of the shame. I couldn't
see it wasn't my fault. I just wanted it to go away and didn't want any questions. Thank
goodness my friends and family were there for me. They gave me the strength and
power to finally leave."
Two months later Paulini wrote "Scarless", her soul-felt acknowledgement of the past and
overwhelming optimism to look positively to the future. The lyrics tell of the brutal
emotional and mental damage of domestic violence with the song having an even
greater impact as it comes from Paulini's own personal experience.
"I want women to take action. I want people to actually do something. If you know
someone who is a victim, speak out. Break The Silence. Those who are doing this need to
know it's wrong. I really regret I didn't stand up for myself. I hope people will hear my
song and be inspired."
She says she's developed both musically and personally in the last few years, the
songwriting process and development of "Scarless" proving cathartic, enabling her to
emerge defiant, strong, courageous.
Paulini is now moving her career forward in a fresh and positive manner, having just
finished a sell-out tour with the Ladies of Jazz, and inking a publishing deal with Alberts
Music (home of ACDC and Vanda and Young).
"I'm spending all my spare time in the studio writing and producing all my own work.
"Scarless" is only one of a number of songs I'm preparing for my album next year. I can't
wait!" she enthuses. "I'm at the happiest point in my life. Words from my new single say it
all -- 'No need to put my make up on to cover the scars coz the scars are gone. Now I'm
scarless. It's true."
Paulini's new single "Scarless" will be released on 23rd November 2009 to help raise awareness for White Ribbon Day, and the White Ribbon Campaign.